So I Went to This Fireside

So I went to this fireside. The guest speaker is a Family and Marriage Therapist. Ironically, I've met her before. I was in a sample group to help give feedback on her book. She's really good. She has some great idea's on the whole dating dynamic. Anyway, I went to this fireside and they passed out this handout. I feel ok regurgitating the info since they were passing it out. It's interesting info. And hey, if it helps us date better or understand one another in order to have better relationships regardless of whether we are married or not, I say..here ya go! :)

17 secrets to the female psychology
1. Women thrive when they feel safe and secure.
2. Women love through sacrifice but need men to communicate their needs if that sacrifice is to be helpful rather than hurtful and over responsible.
3. Women read into men's behaviors, get excited, assume commitment, and then get hurt when he pulls away due to the added pressure.
4. Women are critical of their bodies and fear competition from other women.
5. Women are attracted to strength and confidence.
6. Women are turned off by men who are too nice.
7. Women often fall in love with friends.
8. Women like to be pursued and to feel wanted.
9. Women enjoy touch, kissing, and affection but feel vulnerable and prone to shame after sexual contact.
10. Women want men who hold off sexually - it makes a woman feel respected and wanted rather than feeling like an object.
11. Women want immediate relationships but trust and value slow progressing relationships.
12. Women long to feel adored.
13. Women are repelled by moping, brooding, and the silent treatment.
14. Women worry. They need to know they are not alone in dealing with the problems of the relationship.
15. Women who don't trust and respect their men, fall out of love, especially if there is no communication.
16. Women like gifts, surprises, reasonable spontaneity, and excitement. The extra effort makes them feel special.
17. Women would rather have open and honest communication about misdeeds than to be protected from the truth.

17 secrets to the male psychology
1. Men seek our relationships that make them feel trusted and respected.
2. Men love through sacrifice.
3. Good men are largely logical about their relationships and commitment. Thus they do not commit easily to things they have not invested in over a period of time.
4. Men are driven to succeed, face challenges, compete, and conquer.
5. Men like women who like themselves.
6. Men love to be heroes.
7. Men like being appreciated.
8. Men like femininity.
9. Men like women who have opinions and assert their needs.
10. Good men pursue women who are approachable and appear to be available.
11. Good men want sex with a woman who feels good about having sex with them and will wait until marriage.
12. Men need to be needed.
13. Men are repelled by criticism, nagging, and whining.
14. A man experiences anxiety in every conversation a woman initiates until she tells him what she wants him to do.
15. Men bond through doing activities and talking about things more than they do through talking about people, problems, feelings, or ideas.
16. Good men adore women who give them love, attention, and affection.
17. Good men are often willing to talk openly and honestly when they feel it will help them or another person to do so.
~Alisa Goodwin Snell, LIcensed Marriage and Family Therapist

All I'm saying, is that both guys and girls agreed to both. So there's truth to it. :) I guess I'm wishing us all luck in better relationships and a better understanding of the opposite gender.